Day 28 | OCTOBER 08, 2021
Good Evening Friends, Today is day 28 of our new and amazing life!
Today was a good day!
Before heading to the hospital today, I was able to finalize some very important documents in regards to my family future, and I highly recommend that everyone do the same, as I now know, how one life can change or be over in a split second.
That gave me a huge relief and I am now able to refocus on Charlie and a little more work.
Charlie had surgery today. It was her number 19 , they worked as planned in her torso, inspected all of her wounds and they are looking very good. That is good news !
When I arrived today around 2:30pm, she was asleep, the OR days are very hard on her body. She does lose a good amount of volume and that makes her extra tired in addition to the anesthesia. But she was off the ventilator and breathing on her own.
Today our interaction was very limited , just because she was resting and I just worked quietly hanging the cards on the wall. It is starting to look good. Tomorrow I will take a picture. I am so humbled by your beautiful messages, they are so encouraging and comforting. Thank you so much for your cards, more are arriving each day, I think we are on the 300 or so range .
Charlie asked me once again today, how long until she can go home. Well I told her it will depend on her healing process, but I think it will be another 6 or 7 months. She once again did not like the answer, and she said I am worried about our boys and you. I assured her that our boys are ok and I am also ok, I can only imagine how hard it must be for her mother's heart to know how long it will be until she can hold her babies once again.
I tried to remind her of how special the moments will be with our boys when she is home, and how special each holiday and celebration will be. She just looked at me and closed her eyes.
I know how much she wants to come home , but as we know her road to recovery is a very long one , and we are just starting on it.
The rest of the afternoon, Charlie was in good spirits and did rest some more .
I showed her some of your comments on the Facebook group, and she did answer couple questions today :
My question for Charlie is: If you were to choose a Bible verse or inspirational quote that is most helpful to you while navigating through this journey, what would it be?
Charlie asked me to post two passages , this first one , is one that comes to her mind on her current situation, the second one is one of her favorite passages about Love .
Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” —1 Corinthians 13:4-5
Charlie’s Favorite Prayer is Our Father .
Today the hospital psychologist came to see me, and we talked for about 35 minutes, she just wanted to check in and see how I was doing it, I think I am doing fine
Today I am grateful, I am able to visit my wife every day, I am able to see her eyes and I am able to touch her face, I am so grateful for that . Our future life together seems so far away, but I can already see little glimpses of what May look like , I am excited for the next chapter of her care, the reconstruction phase as they call, when her lab grown skin will be applied on her , it will be a long and tedious process, but is the first step towards the goal of coming home.
I keep praying to God to give me strength, patience and hope, I also pray for him to give the same for Charlie. She will need it in the next few months.
Today my act of kindness towards Charlie was to wash her face , with a new face wipes that I got her , with pineapple enzymes, it smells amazing:) She loves it!
My thought of today is, what makes a person have a positive outlook when facing adversity?
I believe in our case faith had a huge part in it, but I also believe that our strong love to each other has served as a base to this new life. What is your opinion?
I would really appreciate your responses.
Thank you for your generosity, love and support.
May God Bless you!